Select Appropriate Age Child Toys

For children, play is a "job" very pleasant. Parenting expert, Carrie Lupoli, reveals that the play can help children develop essential skills associated with the development of their brain capacity.

"In addition, the play also can train the ability to interact, negotiate, sharing, self-reliance, to leadership naturally," said Carrie, in a parenting talk show in Jakarta, some time ago.

But as a parent, you have to be smart to choose the toys are age-appropriate. Carrie added, the choice of age-appropriate toys will help children's brain development capabilities to the maximum.

1. Newborn to nine months
At a very young age, the baby should be given the type of game that should involve all senses. For example, toy cars, rattles, soft toys that can be chewed, picture books (board books or cloth books).

In addition, at this age your child can also be given toys that can be trained to recognize the cause and effect of the act of doing. For example, pop up toy, or a busy box.

2. 9-18 months
Children at this age are considered capable enough to be a little heavier game. For example, plastic toys, artificial food, or zoo game. This game will train them to think a little and observe real human life (imitate real life).

They also can be introduced to a variety of toys that can improve their ability to solve problems. For example, a soccer ball, push and pull toy.

3. 18-36 months
Children this age are able given the responsibility and high sense. Thus, they may be given in the form of material toys that help them to use their own hands while making it. Such as candles, crayons, or thumbprint.

Games that use more imagination is also very good for children's development. For example, game-salonan salon, or a game of mix and match clothes. Besides toys such as action or animal figures, dolls, and stuffed animals.

Want to eat? Train Children to Cook Instead of Buying

Cook your own meals can be done daily school-age children. Parents can begin teaching cooking to give confidence to the child. Thus, every time a child wants to eat, he can create by cooking at home, not a consumer by asking buy certain foods.

Professional Chef Indonesian cuisine Indonesian cuisine of Love (ACMI), Ade Suherman, coached his eldest son Muhammad Rizki Abadi (10) for cooking since the age of seven. According to him, children need to be trained to cook their own meals when the time comes. However, parents still need to adjust the cooking ability of the child, and still no supervision while cooking.

Although no supervision, he is familiarly called Herman's suggested should supervise children while cooking without showing excessive concern.

"We're cooking, chop onion Rizki never asked for my help. I let it hit his hand and finger knives, bloody but he remained silent. Then I was not reprimanded. In the kitchen there is a risk it will be like that, so do not worry too much," he said when met at the launch of the movement Dayakan Indonesia, in Jakarta.

Can parents do when cooking is to introduce children to train and teach you how to use a variety of cooking equipment. Including how to use a knife for example. Also Arm children with simple knowledge about cooking. For example, when exposed to splashes of oil frying, train children not to panic and not to be afraid exposed to splashes of oil. Once again, this is the risk of cooking. By getting used to, the child will be more confident.

Herman also advised to not judge young people make mistakes especially when comparing it to cook. Including when he made dishes failed. Precisely give good knowledge related to the cooking time so that the child tried to cook again, it will give you better results.

To train the cooking habits in children, you should choose simple dishes like stir.

Although not claim the child seems to be a chef, Herman admitted his eldest son is now able to cook their own meals. Start fried eggs, stir, fry chicken nuggets can. But Herman limit frying food because it is more risky for children.

4 Stress Free Tips for Parents

Guilt haunt mothers work, because that reduces the workload of your time with family and children. Guilt arises naturally, because they are not able to properly take care of family affairs and more concerned with jobs. If you have this, the stress arises.

However, you need to take steps to relieve this pressure, and change guilt with something positive. Here's how:

1. Sharing the load
Nowadays, fathers are encouraged to take the burden in terms of parenting. A recent study conducted by the Families and Work Institute, found that fathers can spend one hour per day with their children, the role of fathers different from 25 years ago.

Participation father could come especially when the kids are sick, or when one parent is expected to attend a meeting of parents and teachers in the school. When it comes to parenting, do not hesitate to share the burden of responsibility with a partner.

2. Create a flexible schedule
If you are feeling very stressed, try to ask your boss so rearrange your work schedule. If possible, have the policy of the office so that you can work four days at the office, and one day at home.

However, if that is not possible, try to choose a day on the weekend to be able to spend time with family. At that time, you must turn off your laptop and cell phone. Focus yourself on family togetherness.

3. Search perspectives
If you are at work right now, you might expect to be at home. But you may not be immediately satisfied if it can stay at home all day. According to Dr. Leon Hoffman, director of the Pacella Parent Child Center, many working mothers wish they were more often to be home with the kids, but when it finally managed to achieve this goal, they hope to get back to work. The bottom line? Being a mom is a tough job, no matter how you try to solve it. But if you get perspective on your situation, and believe the reason you are working (or stay home), you can take the positives and wisdom from him.

4. Little stress for children
Research shows that children who are placed in daycare, it will have no impact on their unruly behavior. A study measuring the development of more than 6,000 children, found that children who are entrusted in daycare while their mothers work do not experience permanent delinquency because their mother's absence.

According to Ellen Galinsky, president of Families and Work Institur, the children would prefer that their parents are not too stressed and tired to think of them, rather than having to actually with them for 24 hours during the week.

"Does this finding mean that children do not care about the time with parents? No. The children are even more concerned with the condition of their parents in order to spend time together," says Galinsky, who recently wrote his findings in The American Psychoanalyst.

So, rather than worrying about how long to be with the family at home, it's better to focus on the situation of having fun with your family when you're with them.