Thursday, November 1, 2012

6 Tips for Vacationing with Stepchildren


Blend in the new family was not easy for the stepparent as did the children. But the role of the stepparent is important to create a healthy and loving. When a holiday like this, it is an opportunity and challenge for a stepparent to build relationships with the kids.

The main key is creating precious moments while on vacation with their children. Remember, the holiday is a time for kids to have fun. As a stepparent, your role is to listen and try to understand their full acceptance. Children will feel close and loving you this way than if you try to change them.

Mary Jo Rapini, counselor / therapist says there are several things that need attention in order not to bring holiday stress for children too stepparent.

1. Follow the children's routine. 

Instead of creating new routines to give a different impression on the children, it is better just follow their routines. Children feel the stability of the routine in which they live, including during holidays. If there is an unusual routine they do, children tend to feel anxious and acting.

2. Do not force attachment. 

It takes time for you as a stepparent, also the children to be able to build bonding, so do not ever impose this emotional attachment. You also can not build bonding by giving money or gifts. You will not manage to get the love and affection of children, and have a strong attachment to money or gifts.

3. Talk good about his biological parents. 

Keep your words and your attitude, especially regarding his biological parents. Do not ever talk bad about the children's biological parents.

4. No need to discipline children. 

Speaking of discipline, it is the duty of the biological parents. If you feel the children need more discipline, you should talk to his biological parents. Make a plan together to discipline the child. In the future of course you can talk directly to the child. But do not immediately take action as soon as you see a poor attitude in children, Communicate to parents.

5. Honest and open. 

Build genuine communication with your stepchildren. Listen to them, give them support, build honest communication. Do not be patronizing because it would not work.

6. Plan a gift. 

If you plan to give gifts to children, talk with your child ahead of time. But be sure, this is not the intention of the effort to win the hearts of children. Make gift-giving moment as an expression of gratitude and love, through simple things, giving gifts.